Have you ever said or felt any of the following:
If you find yourself constantly checking up on your partner/ex-partner/family member frequently – listening to their phone calls, reading their messages, tracking their location, calling/messaging them to find out where they are or who they are with – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If you frequently put your partner/ex-partner/family member down – calling them names, criticising them, humiliating them, making false accusations about them – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If you try to control your partner/ex-partner/family member – telling them who they can or can’t see, where they can or can’t go, what they can or can’t wear – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If you are trying to limit the contact your partner/ex-partner/family member can have with doctors, social workers, or other professionals – stopping them attending appointments, insisting on attending appointments with them, not allowing them to speak for themselves/speaking for them – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If you try to stop your partner/ex-partner/family member from having financial freedom – stopping them gaining or maintaining a job, not allowing them ownership of their own finances, incurring debt in their name – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If your partner/ex-partner/family member is afraid of what you will say or do – if you are being physically violent, emotionally abusive, intimidating, withholding essential medication or care, forcing them to engage in sex when they do not want to – your behaviour is abusive and causing harm to others.
If you would like to help to change your behaviour, support is available.
